I was going through photos on my phone and found one from the summer after senior year of high school, which was about five years ago now (yikes). It’s of me and Kelsey in my backyard holding a plastic bag filled with what you could call “resolutions” but was more like predictions for what our senior year would bring us. I think we said we’d wait a few years before digging it up (we literally buried it in my backyard, which my dad was not a fan of) but we barely made it a year.
Both of us had predictions involving boys that stopped being in our lives shortly after we buried the notes, which is hilarious and embarrassing at the same time. I also referenced my Dad’s new relationship and she had something written down about moving to Tennessee. It was honestly really cool to see what had changed in a year, but also ridiculous that we even did that.
Looking at this picture is making me think of what lessons I’ve learned and how they relate to my future. So I’ve decided to make a list of new resolutions.
- Take care of your mental health. It is not something to be ashamed of. Everyone else in the world is not perfect; stop comparing how you cope with things to them.
- Buy more candles. You love them. They smell good. They can be really cute and complete any table setting. You can spend the $10.
- You do not need to keep toxic people in your life. If you are stressed from maintaining the friendship chances are it is not worth it. You do not need to parent people who are supposed to be your friends.
- Going to the movies alone is AWESOME. You don’t have to deal with anyone else. You get to react and sing along without any care. You don’t get distracted. It’s also a great feeling knowing you can do it alone and there’s nothing negative or anxiety-related attached to it.
- Don’t let boys who won’t give you the time of day control your thoughts, choices, or actions.
- It’s okay to binge watch a season of some TV in a day. Netflix exists for a reason. Everyone does it. Sometimes you just need it.
- Everything somehow has a way of figuring itself out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Now let’s hope I actually believe what I’m preaching here.