Feeling Jealous of Kylie’s Soon to be Billions?

How does it feel slaving away at your 9-5 job after spending the last 4+ years acquiring an education and a mountain of student loans just to make ends meet? Pretty freaking terrible when you see headlines like “Kylie Jenner set to be the youngest-ever self-made billionaire” *eye roll*

When we reflect back on other self-made billionaires, we see the hard work, dedication, and grit it took to get there. We see how Sara Blakely sold printers door to door before inventing Spanx. How Mark Zuckerberg was a Harvard drop out but soon created Facebook. We see the struggles and obstacles these people had to overcome to become the inspiring entrepreneurs they are today. And then there’s Kylie Jenner. Sure she invested $250,000 of her own money… which happened to be easily earned with the help of Kris Jenner who capitalized off of a sex scandal to bring the Kardashian name to fame. It’s natural to feel bitter when we see the success Kylie Cosmetics has amounted to when we know posting selfies on Instagram to millions of followers isn’t necessarily considered to be “hard work”.

But in life aren’t we told to take advantage of our opportunities? I’m sure everyone hears that growing up, to take advantage of every single opportunity you have. The opportunity to have an education, leveraging your parents jobs to get ins for our own career, getting through college with some financial help, these are all great opportunities that we take when given the chance. So why do we feel so bitter towards the Kardashian empire. Towards Kylie’s easy path to success. Wouldn’t we do the same? (minus the sex tape of course). Life is full of envy, jealousy, and bitterness. We want what we can’t have and what opportunities we aren’t given. Don’t let the lack of opportunity stop you from achieving greatness. Life is not fair, and it was not intended to be that way. Some have easier paths than others, but that doesn’t mean we can’t all get there. Always shoot for the stars, follow your dreams, and put jealousy aside. Make the most of the life you have and the opportunities you are given, because what everyone else is doing simply just doesn’t matter.

Find Your Happy, Even If It’s the Unpopular Opinion

pexels-photo-704813.jpegGrowing up I think we all fall victim to the same struggle of making certain choices solely because it’s what everyone else thinks we should do. We dress a certain way, act a certain way, and do different things because it’s what we’re “supposed to do“. This is something I’ve struggled with, even with something as simple as this blog. Me and Hannah loved the idea of starting a blog, writing whatever it is we want, and feeling excited about something. But, we were scared to share it with anyone in fear of what people might have to say about it. Although people may judge what we write or the fact that we made this site, we finally realized doing this blog makes us happy. And that is the only thing that matters.

In life I’ve found that doing the things you love and finding your happy sometimes is the unpopular opinion. It may not be what everyone else says or thinks you should do. But, these are the defining moments when you will realize who the valuable people in your life are. Anyone that tears you down or makes you feel bad for doing something you love is not someone that deserves to be a part of your life. Because as “dumb” as I thought people might view our blog, since sharing with a few friends and family I’ve received so much support. Good friends want to see you doing something you love. They want to see you happy and enjoying life and regardless of what anyone thinks, those true friends will always build you up. And if anyone in your life treats you otherwise, the problem is not you. It’s them. Your happiness should not be affected by the jealousy or miserableness of someone else’s opinion. 

One of the biggest obstacles I’ve struggled with finding happiness is my career. Ever since I started in engineering almost five years ago, I’ve received endless support and praise. My family and friends have been so proud and encouraging of the things I’ve accomplished in the field. I’ve gotten my degree and done several internships and made a lot of money. On paper it is the perfect successful career and has a future with endless possibilities. But, this is not my happy. I loved the challenge of getting my degree and learning engineering in school, but the real world applications and industry just don’t motivate me. I am generally a very self driven person, but I’ve hit a wall where it’s a daily struggle to apply myself and put forth effort because I just don’t have the passion I need to do well in this industry. But I have always had a passion for teaching. Since high school, being a math teacher was my dream job and although I could see myself loving that career, I pushed it aside for a path that would lead to more financial success.

Now that I’m in the real world I’m determined to live my life doing what makes me happy. I’m a dreamer, I always have been. I dream big and have high hopes for what my life will be. And I want to live this life of mine following my passions and desires, not the biggest paycheck. While I always thought this was the “unpopular opinion“, my friends and family have been so incredibly supporting of me doing what makes me happy and they admit I’d make an amazing teacher. I still don’t regret getting my engineering degree. I believe I’ll be using it more than I think with teaching and in my future. I still aspire to be an entrepreneur one day, but right now I have this undeniable force pushing me towards teaching. And while I’m happy with the way my career has gone so far, I do wish I had realized sooner how finding my happy is SO much more important than following the popular opinion.

xx Kelsey

Coping

I have ADHD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Moderate Depression. If you knew me in real life, or followed me on Twitter you wouldn’t be surprised to find this out.

I am also an extrovert 98% of the time. I thrive when I’m with people, I don’t like being alone, I feel the need to constantly be communicating with someone. I do need a day or two after to recoup (good ol’ depression.) I always joke about how I’m an extrovert with severe social anxiety so basically a living oxymoron.

One of the most apparent things about my anxiety is that I crave interactions, but never feel comfortable initiating them. I live in a city where I do have a few friends, but they all have lives outside of constantly hanging out with me (surprising I know.) So I tend to spend a lot of time alone. This is something new to me. And is something that was REALLY hard for me at the beginning.

For a while I viewed it as I had something wrong with me and I needed to change. I would spend days not talking to anyone but my coworkers. I wouldn’t eat because I didn’t think I had enough energy to cook. I lived on Diet Coke. I wanted to change myself so much and didn’t understand why I couldn’t just DO IT. It took a while to realize that I don’t have to change myself, but I have to find what works for me and will help me cope with the situation I’m currently in.

I wouldn’t say I’m 100% comfortable, I definitely am constantly dealing with my depression and trying to remember to get out of bed some nights and weekends (most nights and weekends honestly) but I’m getting better. For a while how I coped was probably not the smartest (random boys in my bed) but I’ve gotten better at that. There are a few things that have really helped me:

My cat Moose. It sounds ridiculous but he has been such a grounding thing for me, he technically is an emotional support animal (doctor’s note and all) because I needed that for my apartment. But I did not realize how big of an affect he would have on me. He gives me a reason to get out of bed (because I have to feed him and he wouldn’t dare let me forget that) and cuddles with me which makes me feel less alone. I would not be doing as well as I am if I didn’t have him.

hairmaskI have been working on ~me~ which I hate because that’s cheesy but it’s kind of true. Friday nights are usually me nights; I put on a face mask, hair mask, do my nails, and take a super long shower. Then usually end the night curled up in bed with a really good book. I believe that apple cider vinegar cures everything so honestly I just put that all over my face and hair. This picture is from earlier tonight and I will probably regret putting it on the internet but oh well. Spending time to make myself physically feel better helps a lot with making sure I feel the same way mentally.

Home decor and crafting is my SHIT now. I am Joanna Gaines. I have come to find out I may not be the best, but figuring out how to repurpose items or give them a makeover is SO FUN. A few examples of what I’ve done is turning a cabinet door into a cute retro coffee table, turning a vintage pink ironing board into a jewelry holder, and a dresser I repainted to match my personality in the best way (hot pink with cactuses all over the sides). I try to do projects in place of Netflix and reading. I love both and still do them constantly, but finding something to do with my hands and using my brain in a new way has really changed how I look at the world. I’m constantly thinking of what I can do next. It helps with realizing there’s things I can do by myself that are just as entertaining and fulfilling as hanging out with people.

The point of this post is that it’s important to find what works best for YOU when it comes with dealing with your anxiety and depression. This post in no way covers all that I deal with related to my disorders, this honestly barely scratches the surface. But it something I’m working on being more vocal about because I think mental health is something everyone should be vocal about. I do not need to change me, just need to figure out what works be for ME.

 

xx Hannah

 

Reasons To Be Happy When Work Isn’t

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I recently graduated and the transition to work life is tough. Working 9 hours a day, commuting for 2, and by the time you do all your cooking and cleaning there’s barely anytime for anything else. Almost immediately into starting my job I was living purely for the weekends and dreaded Monday through Friday. Some days I still do. But, even if you aren’t living a life where you get to be at your dream job 40 hours a week, you can still find happiness. And those moments of happiness just might make the week bearable, or maybe even *gasp* enjoyable.

State of mind is everything. If you continue to complain about work and only see how horrible it is (which I was), it’s always going to feel horrible. Rather than focusing on the negative aspects of work, instead try to consider all of the things your job enables you to do. You can start small by saying well, it gives me basic needs like a roof over my head, food to eat, and wifi (that’s a basic need right?). Now sometimes that still might not feel like enough to appreciate your job because if you just look at the basics, it almost feels as though you’re spending all your time working just to survive. We’re not trying to just survive life, we want to live it and love it. So think past the basic living essentials and look at the things in your life that make it wonderful. Think about the things that make you happy that you wouldn’t have if it weren’t for that 9 to 5 job. For me, these are some wonderful things that make me so thankful for my job:

  1. Evenings of loving on my pups and boyfriend
  2. That feeling of sexiness and confidence when I wear a new outfit
  3. The comfort and serenity of my living room because it’s decorated exactly how I want it
  4. Enjoying a warm cup of coffee on the back patio on a Sunday morning
  5. Screaming my favorite song as loud as I can in the car with the windows down
  6. Eating chipotle while watching Grey’s Anatomy (guilty pleasures)
  7. Sipping a cold beer on an evening out with my best friends

Owning dogs, and buying new clothes, and driving your car all require that dreadful horrible, wonderful job you have. So on the days where it’s tough and you can’t bare the thought of another day at work, make a list of the wonderful things that make you so thankful for your job.

xx Kelsey

Underpaid and Motivated

Being an adult is weird. Granted I’m only 22 and still steal whatever food I can from my parent’s house when I visit. But for all technical purposes I’m an adult. I have a job, my own apartment, a cat and bills.

But I’m struggling to find the good in this new chapter of my life.

I really do like my job; but I’m extremely underpaid and my skills are underutilized. I like my co-workers and it’s a job where I know we are making an impact. But going and sitting at a desk, staring at a computer screen is not where I wanted to end up. I know it’s all relative, this won’t be my life forever and I need to make the choice to change it. But even though things may change, I’m struggling to find the purpose and motivation in the ~adulthood~ I’m currently living.
This coming September I’m going to have to make one of the biggest decisions of my life. I will be finding a new job and city to call home, but currently have no idea where I’ll end up.

But I’m starting to realizing that’s really freaking exciting. It doesn’t make working any easier; Kels and I complain on the regular to each other about how desk jobs are not for us. But the fact that I’m able to basically start over is motivating. Hopefully I will find a job that I love. Live in a city I love, maybe one I’ve never even been to (Rochester, MN) or go back to the city that will always feel like home (Madison, WI). Hell, maybe even Tennessee. Or even throwing a dart at a map and seeing where that takes me.There’s nothing holding me back (besides money of course but that’s a whole different post).

The feelings I have right now about the long-term changes I’ll soon be facing are exhilarating. It’s just like an extra shot. It’s giving me that motivation and drive to find a new happiness. Sure, going to work every day is probably not going to be any easier. But at least I’m starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

♥ Hannah